Men and women used to have pre-defined roles: most married men worked hard to earn money for the family, single fun-loving men had an interest in cars, women and earning money; single mothers women usually worked hard to support their children, or if they had a supportive husband would work but their place was in the home. Most activities for women revolved around children, sewing and keeping the home nice and tidy. While the working world was mainly the men’s domain, so the home was the women’s.
Modern society has changed now where women are trying to prove themselves in the workplace. Misconceptions about women who have children will no longer be as focused at work are still abundant, despite the number of women who return to work immediately after their maternity leave or decide to take shorter leave to return to their work. It’s not just women that are immersed in the world of having multiple skills. In today’s society, to be considered a good candidate for employment, you need to be able to demonstrate your intelligence through exams, previous work experience as well as an active social involvement and/or extra-curricular activity.
A similar question was posed by a reader to Suzannah at blog Create/Enjoy about being involved in various activities. When I’ve had to introduce myself and my blog to others, a lot of fellow bloggers are amazed at what my blog is about. I know that I’ve stuck my fingers into lots of different pies and friends are surprised at how much I do, but how do you curb your interest in a variety of activities?
Visiting different parts of my blog or reading recent blog posts, you’ll be able to see at a glance that when I can in a week, I get into:
- working at least 35 hour weeks at my full-time job
- twice weekly BodyCombat
- BodyPump and BodyBalance on a weekend morning
- capoeira (need to try and pick this up again)
- keeping this blog updated 3 times a week
- dressmaking (currently includes working on my wedding dresses, after that I’ve got other dresses I need to get started on as well as 2 bridesmaid dresses and an evening reception dress for the wedding)
- jewellery making (although I haven’t really done much recently)
- getting involved in charity work or promoting mental health awareness
- meeting up with friends
- spending time with the OH
- wedding planning
I don’t necessarily recommend anyone “try it at home,” because there is a cost to trying to do it all and I often wish I were doing less…I appreciate her request, but I’m more likely to write a post about balancing life goals than about how to fit everything in!
– Suzannah, Create/Enjoy
It might seem wonderful to have a varied interest in different areas, but it’s definitely not easy. For someone who likes to take time out and just do nothing, it can often be too much. While I enjoy myself a lot in, say, taking photos, relieving stress and frustrations in my classes and creating something with my own two hands in the form of lovely garments and sharing my interests in my blog, sometimes I find myself drained and in a cycle of constant activity.
Source: Propeller PR
Some might feel envious that I’m able to achieve so much, but in reality, I do admit to trying to do too much and friends understand when I’ve not got time for social interactions. Sometimes I have to put my hands up and take time during the weekends to just read on my Kindle and take a much needed nap in the afternoon to recharge.
It’s not an easy task trying to achieve a lot. I’m proud of myself for what I’ve achieved in my life before I’ve turned 30. I can honestly look back on my life and say, despite not achieving my main goal, I’ve managed to out-do myself in what I thought I’d be able to do in my personal life. For that, I have my OH to thank for believing in me and giving me the push I needed to get my foot in the door. In doing so, he’s shown me that he believes that I can do what I didn’t believe possible. Right now, what I need to learn is how to balance my life and take some time to appreciate the most important things in life and to fit the less important things in the gaps.
Set your priorities and take care of the golf balls first. Remember that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a cup of tea with a friend
On that note, the OH thoughtfully bought me an Amazon UK gift voucher as a Valentine’s day gift. It might seem like a strange gift, but I actually mentioned that I wished I could receive it more often as gifts so I could buy paperback or hardback books I’ve saved on my wishlist. I’ve bought myself some inspirational books that I hope to delve into soon that I think would be good reads for anyone else who find themselves in a similar situation as myself.
Overwhelmed: Work, Love and Play When No One Has The Time
by Brigid Schulte, £6.60 (Kindle eBook) or £10.39 (paperback) – read Create/Enjoy Suzannah’s review of the book here
The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin, £2.99 (Kindle eBook) or £6.99 (paperback)
Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking by Susan Cain, £2.50 (Kindle eBook) or £6.29 (paperback)
The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World by Sophia Dembling, £6.65 (Kindle eBook) or £11.99 (paperback)
Introverts in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After by Sophia Dembling, £7.05 (Kindle eBook) or £10.82 (paperback)
If you’ve got any book suggestions or would like to share your own experiences, feel free to comment below or contact me through social media. If you prefer to keep your stories private, you could also send me an e-mail 🙂